I got a nice forwarded text message. Yes, I am using the words nice and forwarded in the same sentence! But wait, this one was really nice. It goes like this,
“Life answers you in three ways. It says yes, and gives you what you want. It says wait, and gives you something better. It says no, and gives you the best you can have!”
Sounds nice, isn’t it? But then, it’s so difficult to take no for an answer. I am human, just like everyone else. Sometimes, when life says no to me, I get frustrated. So frustrated that I wonder if I deserve anything at all in life! Like this morning. My long-awaited vacation of exactly four days got cancelled. Again! For the fourth time. The reasons behind the cancellation were beyond my control, or D’s for that matter, who was supposed to come along. But, my first reaction was…WTF? Then, I was frustrated, upset, depressed. Then, I saw D getting even more upset and depressed. I snapped back and told him it was ok. That we would compensate some other time. That there was always a second chance. This morning, I was back to feeling depressed and upset.
Post-lunch, I decided enough was enough. I wasn’t going to waste the whole day regretting something so totally out of my control anyway. That said, it was not easy. Why do we find it so difficult to take disappointment? Why is so tough for us to take no for an answer. This is, after all, a vacation. A vacation I can take anytime later. A vacation wherein I was supposed to go only to Bangalore, all of 5 hours away. Then why was I feeling so depressed? So frustrated? What is the point?
Maybe because we pin so many hopes on that one event, one possibility, one person, or one happening? Maybe we should learn to take that no and life would be that much better. Huh? I don’t know! Honestly, I wish I had the emotional maturity to take that no. I know I lack it. But don’t we all at some point? Life once said yes to me. It gave me what I wanted. Then, I realized I deserved better. Then, it said wait. I am still waiting. Now, it’s said no. I wonder what best it’s going to give me!
thats coz we are complicating stuff by over thinking and attaching loads of hope on small things that actually dont matter..twenty years before i dont think vacations,marriages,joie de vivre and such stuff were given much importance then..and they got along fine..and well to keep you going they say that fate is making you wait for the best stuff and all..like lying to a child..free
Twenty years ago, you got married because your parents wanted you to. You married someone you had never met and accepted that as a fact of life. Twenty years ago, vacation meant the once-in-two-years visit to native place. It’s time we accept that things have changed. For the better or for the worse, depends on our perspective. They got along fine then because they didn’t know any better. Ignorance is not always bliss though!
amrutha good
Thanks!! 🙂
Hmm dats sounds sad about ur vacation , take a chill pill !
“Life answers you in three ways. It says yes, and gives you what you want. It says wait, and gives you something better. It says no, and gives you the best you can have!”
Itz true & reality of lyf !!!
I did finally! With much difficulty! Took quite a long time to accept that I couldn’t go anywhere this time around!
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