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Posted on July 10, 2011 by Accidental Writer

I know I’ve been missing in action for quite some time now. First, I promise to be a regular blogger, as opposed to a lazy one, henceforth. Yes…I do! Every time I read something interesting, I make a mental note to write about it. But between work, family, brand new fiancรฉ and wedding madness, blogging seems to take a back seat. Every single time. But there are some things that have been on my mind for some time now. It’s all very random, as the post title suggests, but here we go!

What’s this Slut Walk business? Yes, I do agree with the principle behind it. No woman should have to cover up simply because men are tempted enough to rape and blame the woman for it. And yes, I also agree that how I dress is not a reflection of my character. But, I have a problem with the term Slut Walk. I am not a slut. No matter how many times we claim words need to be reclaimed, the fact remains that the term is an affront to a woman’s character. No woman deserves to be called a slut. Just like no woman deserves to be raped. Just as I didn’t get the point behind the Pink Chaddi campaign and refused to donate my precious underwear to some pervert, I also refuse to participate in this walk that is so popularly called Slut Walk. Every word in this blogpost by Ritu strikes a chord. And, I agree. I have a problem with the term. Words carry meaning, both implied and explicit. And I refuse to accept the use of the term slut for any woman.

Now, onto the next! I have been reading a lot of posts on joint families and in-laws and marriages of late. And I have also been reading uber-feminist posts on what a marriage entails. I can’t help but think, when I read some of these posts that some women want to take offence to everything all the time. Don’t get me wrong. As I said before, nobody has the right to tell an adult how to dress and what to buy. I am all for freedom and independence. But sometimes, I really feel that some women tend to go overboard with their complaints. I mean, how is it fair to refuse to live with parents for any length of time just because some adjustments are required? I grew up in a joint family. I am none the worse for it. For all I know, my in-laws will decide to stay with us permanently after S and I get married. How is it fair on my part to refuse that? To me, feminism is not about absolute freedom to do what I want. It is to be subjected to the same restrictions and rules that I would have been had I been a man. It is not to be treated any differently because of my gender. I know I am probably going to tread on a lot of toes when I say this, but I think we all need to learn some adjustment. Adjustment, not compromise. And yes, there is a difference.

And finally, a thought on arranged marriages. Granted, I am not married yet. But, I will be in a few months. And I am getting married to man who was introduced to me by my parents. And today, I am already being forced to eat my words on arranged marriages. I have said earlier that arranged marriages are unworkable. But today, I think I was wrong. Completely wrong. And I am glad about that!

Category: Feminism, Personal

6 thoughts on “Random thoughts…”

  1. Phoenixritu says:
    July 10, 2011 at 11:06 pm

    Thanks for the link love m’dear. Yes that is the beauty of this world, nothing is absolutely right or wrong. What is good for me may be wrong for some one else and so on.

    Hope you have a happy and harmonious wedded life

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    1. Amrutha says:
      July 10, 2011 at 11:07 pm

      Thanks a lot Ritu! ๐Ÿ™‚ For those words and the wishes…

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  2. valluvarselvan says:
    July 11, 2011 at 11:43 am

    May be Marxist theology is right to claim ideas are formed and changed with the change in material conditions.As the situations we are placed in keep changing our ideas and response to the changes around keep changing.Its all a question of adaptation and survival.
    Wish you all that is best in life.

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  3. Suki says:
    August 1, 2011 at 8:19 pm

    Yes, yes and yes!

    Why on earth a woman would want to valorize her right to go to pubs and to be a slut is simply beyond my comprehension.

    Now let me read Ritu’s post and make a post in reply ๐Ÿ™‚

    @valluvarselvan: What’s Marxist theology? I didn’t think Marx had anything to do with the study of God :-/

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    1. Amrutha says:
      August 1, 2011 at 9:20 pm

      Go read! And you’re right…I would never want to called a slut. Ever.

      Reply
  4. Reema says:
    December 23, 2011 at 8:56 pm

    how is married life treating you? ๐Ÿ™‚

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